Emotional Infidelity – Is It Trouble In The Making
No man/woman is an island! We spend time out in the world with different people and sometimes we make a friendship with others. This is excellent, and an incredible part of life. And before you have a clue, you are experiencing emotional infidelity. When you are being more intimate with this new person than you are with your partner, even if it isn’t sexual. It may be challenging to draw the line sometimes but if you find that you are thinking of someone else a lot more than you should be, and not just in a truly chaste way, it may be that you need to seriously take a long hard look at what might be lacking in your relationship with your spouse.
It’s really easy for this type of emotional infidelity will lead you into a physical relationship with this third person. That’s one of the simplest reasons that you have to seriously take steps to stop all contact with this person. There is no reason to be angry with yourself about it just because you found yourself in the position where you met someone and found that the two of you had an amazing attraction. What you do need to do, however, is accept and realize that any type of cheating is wrong and you need to end it before you regret it.
The more you let yourself to spend time with this other person, the more the attraction will become and the harder it will be to say no, or stop things. If you are sharing things with this new person about your relationship with your spouse, you’ve crossed a line. It’s one thing to confide some things to your friends, but not someone you are attracted to. Doing so will only create bigger difficulties for you and create an ‘unnatural’ bond with {this other person|with the third person|the new person.
Your spouse is the person you should be sharing these issues with, not someone who you are having feelings for. Without a doubt that is a complete betrayal of your spouse/partner. By letting this other person in, more and more every time the two of you talk, you are building a gulf between yourself from your partner. As day follows night, if you allow a situation as described to flourish, your relationship with your partner will suffer and may even fall apart and end. And even though you are now 100% sure that you want to be with this third person, believe me, when the brown stuff hits the fan you might quickly change your mind.
It’s astonishingly easy to start to believe that this new friend in your life is the be all and end all. That’s because there is nothing negative about your relationship with the, you don’t argue, you don’t have to divide up home chores, look after the kids, do the laundry. I’m talking about the boring every day nuts and bolts of life that we all have to deal with but aren’t shared by the two of you, so of course things may seem wonderful. Just remember, they felt that way at first with your spouse too. It’s certain. But don’t mistake that with having found your soul mate. Your soul mate is more probable the person waiting for you at home.
Emotional infidelity is for more people than you think, the beginning of a full on affair and betrayal of their spouse. It’s very easy to have a accord with someone else, but when that connection seems to take on a life of it’s own, you need to pull back before things get so far out of hand that you can’t salvage the situation.
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