How to Make Contact With an Ex
Broken up and wondering how to make contact with an ex? Well first of all be sure to give yourself plenty of time to sort your head out, especially if it’s been a rough breakup.
You’re going to need time to think, time to figure out what you want to do and then time to pick yourself up renewed and confident. Failing to take your time and get through these three points means that you run the risk of any contact with your ex being a failure and a waste of time. You’re really looking at least a month to get through all of this, longer if possible.
Once you’re sure that you’re ready, call your ex up on the phone and make the following conversation sound as casual and laid back as you possible can:
“You’ve had time to think!
And you think it would be good if the two of you could meet up someplace neutral for a quick coffee and have a chat!
As I said, don’t come on all heavy because that won’t work!
To make contact with an ex you then meet up, sit down and talk and explain your thoughts to your ex as well as you can. You don’t want this meeting to be a long one, just explain, apologize if you have stuff to apologize for and then ask for a second chance.
You then have to give your ex their moment to tell you what they think. Listen sincerely to what they have to say and make sure that you’ve understood their point of view, you don’t necessarily have to agree with them, but you have to make an effort at understanding them.
Then you tell your ex that you’re going to give them some time to think things over and you leave it at that.
No hysteria, begging, pleading or crying!
To Get Lover Back Show Some Self-Criticism and Tenderness
Dealing With Break Up Pain the Wrong Way
There’s no way around it, dealing with break up pain, is a bitch! If you’re still in love with your ex then what you’re going through is not far from a bereavement. A bereavement of the relationship and all that you hoped for.
Some people can’t cope with break up pain and instead find themselves turning to anti-social and destructive methods to try and get through it, but these methods will bring their own problems long term. I’m talking about drugs, alcohol and a culture of not valuing themselves in sexual situations.
Break Up Pain
If you find yourself in this position where you’re making dubious decisions that you perhaps wouldn’t have made if you were not dealing with break up pain, then you really need to stop and take a moment to look around at where you really are emotionally.
If you have no one to talk to about what you’re going through, then you should consider talking to one of the professional services that exist just to help people who find themselves alone and in crisis. It’s not a stigma to reach out for help in whatever way you need to. Each and everyone of us has to ask for a level of help at some point in our lives and the wisdom is knowing that it is a natural and normal thing to do.
Another route you must not go down if you’re dealing with break up pain is to isolate yourself from those people in your life that may want to be there for you. Staying in night after night and avoiding people in your family or social circle will only prolong what you’re going through. Instead, force yourself to re-connect with those who care for you and want to help you.
What you should also try your best to avoid at all costs, is to rely on your ex to help you through this period. It will seriously do you no good if you turn to your ex when you’re struggling with break up pain. If you do, you will find yourself very easily drawn into a situation where you might end up remaining emotionally attached to them and or having sex with them. Sex between you and your ex when the situation is not equal, means you end up feeling less than you are. You become even more deeply emotionally frustrated and unhappy. Because let’s be honest here, you want more and your ex is not offering you more when they’re sleeping with you, they’re using you as a sexual release.
Remember this also, as bad as you feel now, and I know you feel bad and worthless – you will NOT die from what you’re feeling. As I said, it is a perfectly natural and normal to be going through what you’re going through. It is, after all the end of your relationship.
Simple Tips to Get Your Ex Back
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Simple Tips To Get Your Ex Back
I get emails all the time asking for some simple and straightforward steps to “get my ex back!” And I completely understand why I get these desperate emails. People are desperate and when they get desperate it’s very easy to panic and start running around blindly doing counter-intuitive stuff. But if you really want to get your ex back, then here are some vital steps you should think about taking.
The first thing to accept is that sometimes no matter what you do or what you don’t do, your ex may not come back to you. Some relationships are over when they’re over and if you can’t accept that and work at moving on, then you’re in for a tough time.
But if yours is one of the relationships that can be saved and you really want to get your ex back, then here’s how you go about it.
- Let your ex know that you don’t want to lose him/her. Let them know that they’re still important to you.
- Make your ex see that they don’t want to lose you either. You can best do this by not panicking when the breakup is announced. You might be stricken inside, but let your ex know that you understand why they left and that you admire them for taking the decision.
- Avoid creating drama and emotional terror when you’re with your ex, if you want to get your ex back, then you have to get your emotions in check and be someone who your ex will admire and desire.
- If you want to get back with your ex, then you should take some time to get your head together, but once you’ve done that your goal should be to work towards a healthy and happy relationship with your ex and then see if there is really a chance the two of you can make a go of it.
- Once you get to the friendship stage, you should make sure that the levels of communication between you and your ex are healthy and strong. However you communicated in the past didn’t work, so develop new and stable methods.
So avoid looking desperate and needy! Cut out the panic as quickly as you can! Take some time on your own to get your head together and then work at a positive friendship.
If you want to get your ex back and are 100% serious about that, then this is as easier way to get them back as I know.
Be good to yourself, Dana!
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