To Get Lover Back Show Some Self-Criticism and Tenderness
To get lover back there’s all kinds of approaches that you can take, some of which will work better than others. A classic though has to be to try a little tenderness. This often works really well if there has been an almighty drama that ended the relationship.
Perhaps there was an affair or some other betrayal that blew everything the hell up or commitment issues, whatever the cause feelings on both sides were probably badly hurt and now you want to get lover back.
Well start by going at this really slowly and gently, you’re trying heal deep wounds and that is going to take you time.
Usually there is blame on both sides, there’s very rarely one person to blame when a relationship goes wrong, even if you were the person cheated on or betrayed. Therefore what you should also keep in mind as you make your attempt to get lover back is that you will no doubt have to look at your part in the break up.
Was there something you could’ve done to stop things getting to the point they are? Did you ignore signals and signs? Did you handle things badly and contribute to the escalation? Whatever the answers, there are always two to blame, so own your part in the mess.
So open yourself up to self-criticism and criticism from others. Ask a friend what they think about what has happened, but don’t just ask a ‘yes’ friend who will tell you what you want to hear.
Get them to tell you what they think you should work on to get your ex back.
As you begin to work at getting your ex lover back, remember, whatever the person you love may be feeling, it is real to them. You might think they’ve over reacted or they’re not being fair, but they clearly feel some thing big enough to have walked away. So it would be a mistake for you to belittle or dismiss what they’re feeling.
Open up your heart and let them know that you are trying to understand what they’re going through. If you don’t fully understand their point of view, then tell them that and work at understanding it. Remember you can understand without agreeing with them.
Tenderness and compassion are not always easy virtues to show someone who you believe has caused you pain and upset, but if you love them and want to get lover back, then it is something you have to embrace and embrace with sincerity.
If you need any more help with this, T W Jackson of The Magic Of Making Up, does a really good chapter about how you can get your ex back and it might just be what you’re looking for.
P.S. Remember, if you’re not sure any of my recommends are for you, you can get a 1-2-1 personal review, where I will help you figure out if a book or course might work for you. Just get in touch with me and I’ll get back to you asap. Dana!
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