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How to Make Contact With an Ex
Broken up and wondering how to make contact with an ex? Well first of all be sure to give yourself plenty of time to sort your head out, especially if it’s been a rough breakup.
You’re going to need time to think, time to figure out what you want to do and then time to pick yourself up renewed and confident. Failing to take your time and get through these three points means that you run the risk of any contact with your ex being a failure and a waste of time. You’re really looking at least a month to get through all of this, longer if possible.
Once you’re sure that you’re ready, call your ex up on the phone and make the following conversation sound as casual and laid back as you possible can:
“You’ve had time to think!
And you think it would be good if the two of you could meet up someplace neutral for a quick coffee and have a chat!
As I said, don’t come on all heavy because that won’t work!
To make contact with an ex you then meet up, sit down and talk and explain your thoughts to your ex as well as you can. You don’t want this meeting to be a long one, just explain, apologize if you have stuff to apologize for and then ask for a second chance.
You then have to give your ex their moment to tell you what they think. Listen sincerely to what they have to say and make sure that you’ve understood their point of view, you don’t necessarily have to agree with them, but you have to make an effort at understanding them.
Then you tell your ex that you’re going to give them some time to think things over and you leave it at that.
No hysteria, begging, pleading or crying!
To Get Lover Back Show Some Self-Criticism and Tenderness
To Get Lover Back Show Some Self-Criticism and Tenderness
To get lover back there’s all kinds of approaches that you can take, some of which will work better than others. A classic though has to be to try a little tenderness. This often works really well if there has been an almighty drama that ended the relationship.
Perhaps there was an affair or some other betrayal that blew everything the hell up or commitment issues, whatever the cause feelings on both sides were probably badly hurt and now you want to get lover back.
Well start by going at this really slowly and gently, you’re trying heal deep wounds and that is going to take you time.
Usually there is blame on both sides, there’s very rarely one person to blame when a relationship goes wrong, even if you were the person cheated on or betrayed. Therefore what you should also keep in mind as you make your attempt to get lover back is that you will no doubt have to look at your part in the break up.
Was there something you could’ve done to stop things getting to the point they are? Did you ignore signals and signs? Did you handle things badly and contribute to the escalation? Whatever the answers, there are always two to blame, so own your part in the mess.
So open yourself up to self-criticism and criticism from others. Ask a friend what they think about what has happened, but don’t just ask a ‘yes’ friend who will tell you what you want to hear.
Get them to tell you what they think you should work on to get your ex back.
As you begin to work at getting your ex lover back, remember, whatever the person you love may be feeling, it is real to them. You might think they’ve over reacted or they’re not being fair, but they clearly feel some thing big enough to have walked away. So it would be a mistake for you to belittle or dismiss what they’re feeling.
Open up your heart and let them know that you are trying to understand what they’re going through. If you don’t fully understand their point of view, then tell them that and work at understanding it. Remember you can understand without agreeing with them.
Tenderness and compassion are not always easy virtues to show someone who you believe has caused you pain and upset, but if you love them and want to get lover back, then it is something you have to embrace and embrace with sincerity.
If you need any more help with this, T W Jackson of The Magic Of Making Up, does a really good chapter about how you can get your ex back and it might just be what you’re looking for.
P.S. Remember, if you’re not sure any of my recommends are for you, you can get a 1-2-1 personal review, where I will help you figure out if a book or course might work for you. Just get in touch with me and I’ll get back to you asap. Dana!
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