Was Your Relationship A True Partnership Or A Dictatorship?
When you and your ex were together, how often did you tell them what to do? Come on, let’s be honest, how often?
Here’s another question, do you like it when people tell you what to do? Nope, I didn’t think so!
“You know you’ve got to fill up my car today, don’t you?” OR “Babe, can you please remember to fill up my car today? Thanks!”
Which one would you like to hear out of your loved one’s mouth? I know which one I’d want.
Familiarity breeds contempt is a classic saying and if you were barking orders at your ex then I gotta say it’s no real wonder they left.
When you order someone to do something what they hear from you is that you have no respect for them and you don’t value them. If someone doesn’t value you, your motivation to do anything for them slowly fades away and it is replaced by resentment.
If you were the one who was ordered around, then all those bad old toxic feelings of resentment are probably resurfacing as you read this right now.
So why do people stay in situations like that? Well love is always a reason that’s thrown in the mix, sometimes sex and feeling trapped, but it all stores up and pretty soon the relationship is in trouble.
If you want to get your ex back or if your relationship is just hanging on by a thread, then you’re going to have to speak up and let your partner know that you’re not going to put up with being ordered around. If your partner’s already left you and you want to get them back, then you’re going to have to recognize this as a behavior pattern in you and work at stopping it.
Remember you want to be part of a partnership not be a single dictator
Keeping Your Relationship Fresh
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