Dealing With Break Up Pain the Wrong Way
There’s no way around it, dealing with break up pain, is a bitch! If you’re still in love with your ex then what you’re going through is not far from a bereavement. A bereavement of the relationship and all that you hoped for.
Some people can’t cope with break up pain and instead find themselves turning to anti-social and destructive methods to try and get through it, but these methods will bring their own problems long term. I’m talking about drugs, alcohol and a culture of not valuing themselves in sexual situations.
Break Up Pain
If you find yourself in this position where you’re making dubious decisions that you perhaps wouldn’t have made if you were not dealing with break up pain, then you really need to stop and take a moment to look around at where you really are emotionally.
If you have no one to talk to about what you’re going through, then you should consider talking to one of the professional services that exist just to help people who find themselves alone and in crisis. It’s not a stigma to reach out for help in whatever way you need to. Each and everyone of us has to ask for a level of help at some point in our lives and the wisdom is knowing that it is a natural and normal thing to do.
Another route you must not go down if you’re dealing with break up pain is to isolate yourself from those people in your life that may want to be there for you. Staying in night after night and avoiding people in your family or social circle will only prolong what you’re going through. Instead, force yourself to re-connect with those who care for you and want to help you.
What you should also try your best to avoid at all costs, is to rely on your ex to help you through this period. It will seriously do you no good if you turn to your ex when you’re struggling with break up pain. If you do, you will find yourself very easily drawn into a situation where you might end up remaining emotionally attached to them and or having sex with them. Sex between you and your ex when the situation is not equal, means you end up feeling less than you are. You become even more deeply emotionally frustrated and unhappy. Because let’s be honest here, you want more and your ex is not offering you more when they’re sleeping with you, they’re using you as a sexual release.
Remember this also, as bad as you feel now, and I know you feel bad and worthless – you will NOT die from what you’re feeling. As I said, it is a perfectly natural and normal to be going through what you’re going through. It is, after all the end of your relationship.
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