How To Get Over Someone You Love And Move On
There’s no doubting that there are times when the only thing you can do when a relationship breaks down, is to get over it and move on.
If you want to know how to get over someone you love, first you should do is to accept that it will not be easy and it might not be straight forward to get over them. It is often a slow and painful process, but that does not mean that it is not something that you should embrace full on when a relationship is over.
The more emotional investment you had in a relationship the longer it can take to move on and accept that a relationship is over. But that doesn’t mean the sadness that comes with getting over someone you love has to be paralyzing or depressing. No, once you accept the loss of the relationship, it is usually the trigger for you accepting that you are allowed to feel sad, but you can still function and enjoy your life completely.
It’s a good idea to do the obvious things like avoiding going to places that you used to go together, putting away painful reminders such as photos or special gifts. Plus avoid contacting them and instead re-connect with your own friends and family.
It’s always good to talk to your friends and family, but you should be aware that there maybe times when though they may do their best to help, they just can’t help but take sides and they can’t help but work their own motives into the situation and that can often do more harm than good.
Another option, if you find you can’t make it through the initial missing them and the low periods, is to go for therapy and talk to a professional counselor. They can give you the tools and exercises to move on from your situation, because you can tell them in detail how you feel and what kind of relationship you had with your ex.
So please, if you’re really struggling to accept a breakup and wondering how to get over someone you love, then first accept the breakup, avoid painful reminders, talk to family and friends, failing all of that, please talk to a professional counselor who can give you the help you need.
Breaking Up Doesn’t Have To Be Hard To Do
Breaking Up Doesn’t Have To Be Hard To Do
1st day of the new year and I thought I’d get into some of the hard stuff and talk a little about what we already know! Breaking up is hard to do, but sometime you’ve just got to go right ahead and do it!
Now I’m a great advocate of making broken relationships work and keep on trying to make them work – as long as there’s still love and respect there. However, there are times when the best thing to do is to cut your losses and move on.
I would suggest that if:
- There’s any violence in your relationship, then it’s probably not worth saving.
- If your relationship leaves you feeling that you have to apologize for who you are, then it’s probably not worth saving.
- If you are constantly giving and giving emotionally and physically, then you need to consider how you want to proceed.
But ending a relationship does not have to be high drama and recriminations. Here’s how you can make an attempt to avoid the drama of a breakup.
- Schedule a mutually convenient time for the breakup. In general, it is better to do it in person rather than over the phone.
- No matter who you believe is responsible for the breakup, get yourself into a state of compassion when you’re gearing up to end the relationship. There is really no need to throw recriminations around, just state your intent and do it with a some thought to how your ex might be feeling.
- Try talking about the things you’ve learned and the memories you will cherish from the relationship and if you can, acknowledge your ex’s part in those memories.
- If things go bad, try not to take anything personally. Your partner may say things they don’t really mean. Let these words roll off of your back.
- There may be more than one meeting needed between you and your partner to end the relationship, so remember to give your ex what they need to get through this. But also remember that your needs are important too, so don’t become a doormat in your efforts to pave the way for your ex.
- Be honest and if you’re sure you want to breakup, then stick to your guns, don’t get guilt tripped into staying into the relationship!
Magic of Making Up
