Do You Want To Get Your Ex Back Because You’re Scared?
I mean, I have to ask – “Is the reason you want to get your ex back because you’re scared?” And by that I mean, “scared to be alone?”
Well if you answered yes, then you are not alone. There are man who want to get their exs back because they’re scared to be alone. Either they have gone from one relationship to another the whole of their dating lives, and so have never spent any significant time alone, or they have been in one single long term relationship for most of their adult lives.
When you come out of a long term relationship it is very easy to find yourself in a situation where you don’t know how to function on your own. Where you don’t know how to fill your time doing things for yourself, spend an evening home alone or go to the movies on your for instance. These are all things that most of us take for granted, but if you have always done things for someone else or with someone else, then it is extremely difficult to turn around and start thinking about number 1 first and foremost.
But please be clear, relying on someone else for your own self-worth, which is what this kind of behavior amounts to is a dangerous situation. If that someone leaves, you can find yourself feeling worthless and with no purpose in life.
So Here’s Your Approach
Ask yourself honestly if you want your ex back because you’re scared. If you answer yes, then to put it bluntly, you need to get a life!
Make some new friends, change your job, do some studying, get fit whatever it takes to get you physically moving and appreciating your new found life. Clinging to the old wreckage of a dead relationship is not healthy, instead step through that door that has just swung open and take a look around.
If you answer that you’re still deeply in love with your ex, that you know there is still something to save, then I would then still urge you to take some time for yourself and then start your efforts to get your ex back.
It will take time to learn how to live alone but once you do you will find it rewarding and stimulating. Does it mean you isolate yourself and become lonely? No, as with everything you need to find a balance and if you embrace new things, new people and new experiences in your life you can only succeed!
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